Wednesday, September 21, 2011
One of the biggest lessons I've learned
We're going to take a little break from food and kitchen talk cuz I got something important to tell ya. I've learned a LOT of lessons in my late thirties and have probably grown more in the last 2 1/2 years of my life then any other time. One of the BIGGEST mistakes I made after having children was NOT DATING my husband. Babies are so exhausting and then toddlers are even more so. I stupidly thought that no one on the earth could take care of my kids the way I could. Babysitters were expensive and if the choice was between a new sweater or paying a sitter I pretty much always chose the sweater. Now that's just DUMB!! Now I JUMP at the chance to go on dates! Yes, cost is a concern but there is something to be said about making memories and HAVING FUN together as a couple. Well we got the chance to do just that this weekend. We went on a double date with my parents to see BIG N RICH in concert with Gretchen Wilson and it was an absolute blast! And guess what. I almost didn't go!!! I almost saved the money towards a new mirror that I want for my mantle. And that would've been a crying shame because we had SO MUCH FUN!!!
They were playing at the state fair so I arranged for my sister in law to take care of the girls after school and we left in the afternoon for a no holds barred date! And we ATE baby!!! I may need to eat gluten free but I found PLENTY OF JUNK to eat! And then WE DANCED and SANG at the top of our lungs! And we giggled and must've told each other 15 times how much fun we were having and how happy we were to be there!
And it gets better then that!! The next morning I got a text from my husband that said he had so much fun and that he really enjoys spending time with me. Now that's a fantastic compliment if I've ever heard one! He said that seeing me happy makes him happier than anything! I think there's an important truth to grab hold of here. He didn't text me to say, "man you looked so pretty last night." He didn't tell me that seeing me all dolled up in fancy clothes makes him happier than anything. You know what attracts him to me? Seeing me have fun. Watching me enjoy life and dance and laugh and be goofy.
So I have a challenge for my readers. If you have not gone on a date with your husband in awhile would you please make every effort to do so! Would you get all dolled up just like when you were dating before you got married. Would you put on some yummy smelling perfume? And then would you plan something FUN! Maybe it's just going to be happy hour with a gigantic pile of guacamole and more then your share of tortilla chips followed by a visit to your local frozen yogurt shop. Or it might be fun to rent roller blades at your local park and chase each other around the trails stopping afterwards for a Starbucks. It doesn't matter what you do just that you DO something that makse your man feel IMPORTANT and SPECIAL and that HE'S worth not getting a new sweater or mirror because he is SO MUCH more important than things.
And if you're a grandma have I got a doozy of a challenge for you. Would you be willing to be available to take your precious grandchildren so that your own babies could go on a date! Cause I guarantee you that mama needs a break!!! I remember one time when Neal and I went to a movie and ended up being 30 minutes early! We sat in the theater and talked and I was SO HAPPY because I didn't have to take anyone to the bathroom and no one was shoving their hands in my popcorn and eating all of the M&MS. I was relaxed and that half hour of uninterrupted chatting was heaven I tell you!!!
Don't put this off! Your marriage is so important! Plan something fun right now!! And make sure you smile and let him see that twinkle in your eye! It'll do something for him! wink wink!